acknowledging their differences, their personal and family losses, and changes; developing new skills in making decisions as a family; fostering and strengthening new relationships between: parents, stepparent and stepchild, and stepsiblings; supporting one another; and; maintaining and nurturing original parent-child. At first, children may feel uncertain about their new family and resist your efforts to get to know them. This is often simply apprehension about having to share their parent with a new spouse (and stepsiblings). Try not to take their negative attitudes personally. Instead, build trust and strengthen your new blended family by. 19 May While there's no rulebook for handling a new stepfamily, here are some ways to keep the peace among stepsiblings, while getting everyone adjusted to a ( hopefully) happy future together. Create Comfort as You Go. Just because a perfect guide doesn't exist, parents are not excused from figuring out some. acknowledging their differences, their personal and family losses, and changes; developing new skills in making decisions as a family; fostering and strengthening new relationships between: parents, stepparent and stepchild, and stepsiblings; supporting one another; and; maintaining and nurturing original parent-child. At first, children may feel uncertain about their new family and resist your efforts to get to know them. This is often simply apprehension about having to share their parent with a new spouse (and stepsiblings). Try not to take their negative attitudes personally. Instead, build trust and strengthen your new blended family by. 23 Jan “Natural family.” “Failed marriage.” “Broken family.” “New wife.” “Stepmonster.” Living, researching and writing about step-family life for over a decade, I've witnessed the power of words to shape attitudes and feelings. “Wicked stepmother” can bring the most loving, self-confident woman with step-kids to her .